When did dreaming become a guilty pleasure?

It’s strange, isn’t it? We’ve been given these wild imaginations, the ability to dream up entire lives that light us up… and yet somewhere along the way, we learned to feel guilty for it.

As if dreaming was indulgent. Or unrealistic.

“Keep it small.”

“Be practical.”

“Don’t be selfish.”

And so, we play safe. We limit the very thing that keeps us alive: our capacity to imagine a bigger, fuller, freer life.

But let me ask you this—when did dreaming become something to apologize for?

What you want is yours for a reason

You’re not dreaming by accident. That vision you keep circling back to? It’s not here to tease you—it’s here to guide you.

But most of us don’t sit long enough with our dreams to let them breathe. 

We don’t feel them, because the second they appear, the inner critic shows up:

“But how would this even work?”

“What will people think?”

“Am I even the kind of person who gets to have this?”

And there it is—the smallness creeping back in.

Here’s the truth

The problem isn’t your dream. It’s your willingness to believe you’re ready for it.

What if the life you’re aching for isn’t far off, but already here, waiting for you to meet it?

What if the only thing standing between you and that life is your ability to stop justifying why you want it?

An invitation 

This week, I want you to get playful with your dreams.

Start with this: 

Close your eyes and imagine waking up in the middle of the life you really want. What’s happening? How do you feel? Who are you when you’re living that way?

And then, instead of letting your brain demand all the “hows,” ask this:

What’s one small thing I can do today to live like her?

It might be an action. It might be a way of speaking. It might be simply remembering that she is already in you, waiting for you to notice her.

Your dreams deserve space

You’ve already done the hard part. You’ve dreamed. Now give those dreams the space to grow. You don’t have to figure everything out today.

Just lean into it.

Let your imagination run wild.

Let your energy shift.

Let your actions—however small—start to align with the truth of who you are.

No guilt. No shrinking. Just a gentle, powerful reminder: this life is yours.

Do you want some help with bringing your dream into reality? Let’s have a chat.

Love,

Rita